BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE ,I WILL NOT ADVICE ANY WIDOW TO RE MARRY.

Hello Ma,    My name is mrs Gabriel. I am forty three years old . I got married at the age of twenty four , and I married for only twelve years before I lost my husband in a motor accident. Being a young widow was not easy for me. My husband was a trailer driver and I was a complete house wife. I did not know where to start. I was living from hand to mouth to bring up our four children . The eldest of my children was eight years when their father died while the last born was just a year and nine moths then.  Another problem that I had then was that men ,married men were all pestering me , struggling to be the one in my life. But God helped me to resist all their planks.  Then one day ,a man who also lost his wife in my village approached me for marriage. I found out that it was becoming difficult for me to cope with the training of my children, and also to stop those married men from disturbing me. Giving every thing a second thought, I agreed to marry this widower. He promised to take care of my four little children . His own children were also four but they are all older than my children . We got wedded again in the church. He was pampering me. I took in for my second husband , and exactly towards the seventh month of my pregnancy, my second husband told me to send my four children to my people that he do not want to see them again in his house. I pleaded with him but he refused. Then I got a maid and I rented one room across the road where I put my children and the maid.  I started a business when  I got married to this my second husband. I was able to use the proceeds from it to take care of my children.  I thought the matter will be over as I had rented a room for my children, but it was not. Each time I buy food items and other things to give my children, this man will be angry with me. After the birth of my child for him, this man told me to choose between him and my children. I did not waste time to choose my children and that was how the marriage ended. I can not watch my children from my first marriage suffer simply because of another marriage.  I advice widows to think about their children from their late husband before entering into a new marriage. Any man who is not ready to marry them together with their children is not worthy. My experience is true and real. Learn from my experience . Thank you. Mrs Gabriel