Sunday, 25 October 2015

COULD THIS BE A DREAM?



COULD THIS BE A DREAM?

I wake up every morning  thinking that my situation is a dream, but no, it is not.
My name is Joyce, I got married to John 32 years ago. We have 6 daughters and no sons. My husband worked and retired from one of the multinational oil companies  in our country.
We were a very happy family and my husband was not bothered about my having only daughters for him. He always told me that daughters are also gifts from God. The only son we had passed away at birth. My husband always told me that it is only in our country that we put emphasis on male and female children. We gave the best education to our daughters. They are all in school.
Early one morning, my husbands’ brother Chike came to our house unannounced , he told my husband to get ready to follow him to the village, that  their mum wants to see him. We asked Chike what the visit was for  and if it was only my husband that was wanted in the village and Chike affirmed that it was only John my husband that was needed in the village. He then went on to further state that they wanted to relocate my husband to the village  because I had tied him down with 6 daughters and no son to inherit his properties and family name. While pondering on what was just said, Chike jumped on me, pulled my hair and started beating me. My husband was there watching us and he did nothing to separate us.
I managed to get Chike off me and i ran to the police station to report the assault. He ran away before the police could arrive.
My husband was paid all his entitlements and we used the money to build a house in the village He also collects his monthly pensions and other benefits from his company’ retired staff association. My husband was a strong man, he was retired, but never tired. Then someone died in his family and we travelled to the village for the burial. After the burial, my husband was seized by his family and they refused him to travel back with me. He cried that I should beg his mum to release him so that we can travel back together, but all my efforts fell on deaf ears, they refused. I returned home alone and reported the matter to my pastor.
At the month end, as we went to collect his monthly pension, we were duly informed that Chike my brother in law was now the next of kin. I then travelled to the village to ask my husband why everything was changed to his brothers’ name. He had already left the village to live with his brother in a city nearer his village. Upon reaching there, his brother wouldn’t let me in to see my husband. He called the police on me and I was refused access to my husband.
The area commander invited us to the police station. My husbands’ brother was ordered to produce him. When My husband saw me, he started crying and still insisted that I plead with his mother  to allow him to go back with me. We were advised by the area commander to go home and settle the matter as it was a family matter. The two families deliberated on the matter but my in-laws were insisting that I leave. They seized our property in the village and restrained me from going there. I have written petitions to different organisations in the country, no response. I petitioned the church where Chike is a pastor, yet no response.
A final peace meeting was called and it shocked me and made me accept my fate. At that meeting, my husband looked at me and our children and told us to leave, that he doesn’t know us. I called him by his name “JOHN” and he denied us all and told us to go away. Our children called him  ‘daddy’ and he denied knowing them. They now turned to me and told me that as far as they are concerned, they have no father, they are fatherless, that their father is ‘dead’ to them, and that their mother is now a widow.
We have fixed a day to buy our mourning clothes to mourn my husband and the father of my children alive.

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